Your relationship problems are a symptom of something bigger...
Our most intimate relationships with others are a reflection of the core beliefs, feelings and expectations we hold about ourselves. These images of ourselves, experienced through the reflections of our partner's behavior, determine how fulfilled we feel with them. When we don't feel fulfilled, we tend to focus on fixing the reflection (our partner or the relationship). Instead, we need to focus on the image. Our relationship with us.
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-what does the image look like
-practical, relatable experiences i.e. when we don't feel he's supporting by doing enough we fixate on him needing to step up. here i am getting stuck with all the responsibility again' same old story. vs. wow i am super over stepping and doing all the things and wow it's because i'm afraid he'll leave if I don't.. not doing the thing, creating space for him to actually step in AND breaking your pattern - no more 'same old story'.
Even when he needs to take responsibility...
If we're triggered, can't let go or are 100% focused on what he needs to do to fix it, ....
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reclaiming our voice, finding our boundaries, saying no, leaving or softening, allowing him to be him, getting out of codependence
When you make the internal shift with you first
​Your external reality must change in one of 3 ways:
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How he responds to you magically changes.
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His 'stuff' doesn't bother you anymore or the issue magically disappears.
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It becomes super clear this is no longer a match.
The Result?
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You finally feel fulfilled.
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You transform from feeling unloved, un-important, not seen, unappreciated and unsupported to feeling like the most cherished, valued and loved-up woman in the world.
And guess what? It still isn't about him.
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No matter what he does or doesn't do, your deep sense of security and inner worth become unshakeable.
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You're open. Relaxed. Better connection. Better sex.
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Free to be. Free to receive. Free to give.
The biggest prize? Is still not him. While I do hope you find happiness in love, my real goal, my true passion, is helping you become the woman whose worth, security, confidence, passion and peace radiate from your centered self- regardless of whether he texted or not.​ The prize is you.
I'm your guide, Stephanie.
I’ve dedicated my life to overcoming codependence and losing myself in relationship since my mom died when I was 21. With degrees in Psychology and Pre-Med I went on to co-create T&A Talk Sex, a podcast that explored how to have better sex and relationships by understanding how our partners and connections reflect our inner blocks to connection. It reached 60k listeners a month and has nearly 700k downloads today. Certified in Somatic Attachment Therapy and Integrative Somatic Trauma by the Embody Lab, I continue to create free content on YouTube, Instagram and Tiktok.
So Nice to meet you xo
THE POD
Over 650K Downloads
I co-hosted a sexuality and relationship podcast that grew to reach 60,000 people a month with my cohost, Christina Myers. Our motto? Sex isn't ever just about sex. We interviewed experts and folks with unique experiences and perspectives, as well as shared our own explorations, all in an effort to understand the deeper reflections our human sexuality holds that can lead us each to our own empowered experience in the bedroom. We're no longer in production, but there's 122 juicy episodes you can catch up on!
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What is your relationship trying to show you about you?
Relationships are a mirror. And when we experience conflict or lack in them, it's because there's something within ourselves that is trying to be made known, uplifted and transformed. In this free, foundational course, learn my unique process for understanding the core wound any negative feeling in your relationship is trying to show you about your relationship with you. So you can ditch the reactivity & negative patterns & finally find the fulfillment and peace you're longing for.
Testimonials
"Stephanie has a keen wisdom, deep empathy, and unique life experience that i believe makes her a perfect guide for anyone seeking to expand their self awareness and feel a sense of mastery in their own lives. I have always known Stephanie to be on the cutting edge of what is most needed right now. I attribute this to her practiced intuition and experienced one-on-one client work."
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~Christina Hepburn,
Professional Cuddler & Thought Leader on the Healing Effects of Touch in Our Culture (NBC, MTV, Refinery29)
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"Stephanie helped me through a tough transition and she continues to help me regularly! She was absolutely critical to my partner and mine’s success; attentive, knowledgeable, genuine and empathetic. I didn't feel nervous or have any discomfort communicating my challenges to her. I would highly recommend Stephanie to anyone. I know I met her as a client, but she is so easy to relate to, I feel like she has become a true friend! Work with her, it will definitely be worth it! Promise!
~B.A.
Washington, DC
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Stephanie’s ability to illuminate my true path forward impressed me. She helped me discover some hidden fears and needs I was avoiding that were creating a lot of turmoil both in my personal and professional life. Her way of working with you gives you the ability to help yourself going forward, she teaches you to be the teacher. Stephanie develops your abilities to evaluate and see what is important by bringing out the best way for you to do things, not just the way she evaluates the situation, which makes working with her extremely empowering. I am so grateful for my time with her.
~S.P.